how to avoid arguing with your partner

My Experience

No matter what kind of relationship you have or how understanding your partner is without a baby, doesn’t mean your life or relationship will continue as is once the baby arrives.

My husband is a good guy – some women will think I have it really good or easy in fact. However I am a Millennial women and now mom, so I feel that I have been brought up in a different world to my mother and therefore have had different experiences (i.e. not had to be as domesticated) but I also feel that my peers have different expectations of men than my mom’s boomer generation do.  I always wanted a partner who was exactly that, my partner – not me acting like their mom.  So I looked for and luckily found a husband who likes cooking, and isn’t that bad at doing the dishes or cleaning.  With that said, before baby, we didn’t have that many arguments about domestic stuff beyond – me “why can’t you put your laundry in the actual laundry basket not on top?” and him “why can’t you take the garbage out ever?”

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packing for a weekend away in the car with a newborn

My Experience

My husband wanted to get away for the weekend thinking it would be nice to relax (maybe for him!) after our baby girl arrived.  We booked a hotel in the New Forest for the weekend and it was about a two hour car drive there.

Needless to say while it is nice to get away you quickly learn as a new mom that relaxing is no longer has the same meaning – it’s hard to relax when you still have to pump and feed at the same times which limits your mobility.  Packing for a weekend was probably the same effort with slightly less stuff than if I were packing for the week.  Babies have a lot of gear and if you are pumping or formula feeding then you have even more stuff to pack.

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my baby bag is too small

My Experience

I didn’t research diaper bags at all before I registered for one.  I just read reviews of the ones I liked the look of that were gender neutral for baby and not too girly for my husband.  I’m glad I didn’t spend more money on a guy’s diaper bag because I think it’s a total waste of money.  You only need one good baby bag – who wants the hassle of taking things in and out of multiple bags?  It’s like switching handbags it takes time and you are always forgetting something hidden in a pocket.  Let’s face it you’re going to be the one who has to transfer everything for your partner, so you’re just creating more work for you. On top of all the hassle of having two bags there is also the additional cost because even cheap ones aren’t that cheap.

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what ‘type’ of baby will you or do you have?

My Experience

I found this quiz on the Baby Whisperer Forums back in 2006 & I had to repost it as I think it is interesting and important.  I got mostly A’s with a couple B’s so I have an Angel Baby which is what I thought as she is really easy and adaptable!  Everyone wishes for this kind of baby and thank God she is after the horrible pregnancy and delivery I had (read First Trimester 24/7 Nausea & Hyperemesis and From Drug-free Home-birth to Drugged-up Hospital) – I’d do them both all again to have a happy baby 🙂

But I also would like to think certain things I did while I was pregnant also contributed to me ‘creating’ a happy baby – who knows as none of them can be proven per se but there’s no reason not to try as none of them are difficult to do or harmful to you or your baby.

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starting solid foods, puree vs. baby led weaning

My Experience

If you read My Formula & Frozen Milk Strategy you’ll know that I just started formula at 24 weeks and solids at my baby’s six month by month date (two weeks later).

Before I go on I must clarify that US weaning and UK weaning are completely different.  In the US when a woman talks about weaning her baby it’s about getting them to STOP breastfeeding at any age ,she is trying to ‘weaning the baby from her boob’.  In the UK I have no idea if there is any phrase for this process, but UK weaning means to START eating solid food (here it’s confusing as well solid means mashed up to whole food and everything in-between).  I know it really makes no sense to me either being American.  So Baby Led Weaning is about starting solid food BUT in a very specific way.

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how to choose the right baby bottle for combination feeding

My Experience

I combination feed my baby – nurse and pumped in the beginning and now pump and formula so bottles have been a staple since the second week she was born.  If you are going to nurse and bottle feed formula or expressed milk you need to make sure that the bottles you use are compatible with breastfeeding so that your baby doesn’t get confused and your nipples don’t get trashed.  I knew I was going to be pumping before I even delivered so I had my pump delivered to my house and my bottles purchased – you can read all about my pumping experience  Breast pumps and pumping or exactly how I combination feed read My Formula & Frozen Milk Strategy.

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teething & brushing tiny teeth

My Experience

I went to a free post-natal class at my local Children’s Centre which was fantastic because it gave me the ability to meet more moms that live nearby, get out of the house, and learn some stuff about taking care of a baby.  One of the classes was about teething and cleaning teeth.  During our lesson I was absolutely mouth opened shocked when I found out that 25% of children 11 and under get baby teeth PULLED OUT because they are rotten.  I couldn’t even believe it.  Of course this is entirely preventable and is related to the parents giving them lots of foods and drinks with sugar compounded by the fact that they most likely don’t brush their teeth regularly as well.  My nephew had a few teeth pulled a couple of years ago when he was 10 or 11 for this exact reason – he hates brushing his teeth, his parents don’t fight him to enforce it and his mom has fed him loads of crap food his whole life (candy, chocolate, frozen food, takeaway, potato chips etc) and now he’s 14 and I just found out that the dentist won’t allow him to get braces because his teeth are too unhealthy!

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