how not to feel like a bad mom (or bad employee) when you send your baby to daycare 

My Experience

I started back to work full-time  a week before my daughters first birthday.  I was 50/50 about going back to work, I really enjoyed my time with her, but also felt like I needed to go back, but I wasn’t sure if I would want to be there when I got back.  While I was pregnant I had seen interviews and read articles about mom’s who went back to work and other’s who returned part-time or not at all.

What I realized is that many women who stayed home with their children and then decided to try and go back to work after years, found it very difficult to find anything, as they weren’t sure what their employable skills were now, and employers weren’t sure either.  They felt left-out and lost, and other women were advising against not working at all for so many years, saying to instead keep your foot-in-the-door with something part-time, so that it is easier to transition back to full-time once you are ready.  That way you won’t feel unemployable or out of the game.  But I also read and heard other women speak about working part-time and concluded that they felt all over the place.  Working part-time meant they actually worked during their days off and didn’t get paid, in order to feel like they could do their jobs effectively.  Meanwhile feeling guilty about work encroaching on their time with their kids.  A colleague of mine just resigned after six months because she worked part-time and felt like she wasn’t a good mom or a good employee.  Of course if you have a part-time job where you only work set hours, don’t have a work phone or laptop, or clients and emails to respond to, then the situation is different.  However my job is not this case, as I work in advertising/branding, and I knew I would rather be good at my job and be a great mom when I do have time with my daughter, than never feeling good enough as an employee or a mom.

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decorating my nursery, how I used Etsy

My Experience

Picking a theme or color scheme is hard whether you know the gender or not.  Will I get tired of this?  Will it stimulate my baby?  Will it be too stimulating?  Will it be relaxing for me if I have to spend so much time in this room?

At first I thought I wanted primary colors, everything bright and stimulating but that was actually harder to find and make look good then I thought it would be so I reconsidered thinking it wouldn’t be relaxing for me.  We chose not to find out the gender so I came across this color scheme in an interior design magazine and loved it – lemon, mint green, grey and white.  The metallic gold happened to look great as well and already came as part of the dresser, lamp, artwork & mobile.

I am really pleased with how it turned out.  It didn’t cost a fortune and I feel comfortable and proud when I walk into the room.

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