how to avoid arguing with your partner

My Experience

No matter what kind of relationship you have or how understanding your partner is without a baby, doesn’t mean your life or relationship will continue as is once the baby arrives.

My husband is a good guy – some women will think I have it really good or easy in fact. However I am a Millennial women and now mom, so I feel that I have been brought up in a different world to my mother and therefore have had different experiences (i.e. not had to be as domesticated) but I also feel that my peers have different expectations of men than my mom’s boomer generation do.  I always wanted a partner who was exactly that, my partner – not me acting like their mom.  So I looked for and luckily found a husband who likes cooking, and isn’t that bad at doing the dishes or cleaning.  With that said, before baby, we didn’t have that many arguments about domestic stuff beyond – me “why can’t you put your laundry in the actual laundry basket not on top?” and him “why can’t you take the garbage out ever?”

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books I highly recommend reading while you’re pregnant

My Experience

I love reading but I didn’t go crazy and buy a lot of baby and parenting books to read while I was pregnant.  I chose to instead do lots of research online specifically for what I wanted knowing that I already was confident in what kind of mom I wanted to be.  I didn’t need to read up on the trendy new ‘style’ of parenting like attachment, helicopter etc I just wanted to be me and do what comes naturally.

So while I was pregnant I came across three books that were all given to me by friends and family.  Even though I only read three books I believe that all three of them are worth reading for different reasons.

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newborn photography

My Experience

I thought I wanted some really cute sleeping newborn images while I was pregnant but for whatever reason I was too busy researching and preparing for stuff for the baby that I never looked into it.

In the hospital we got some Bounty shots which were cute and captured the hospital moment well – but it made me realize that I definitely wanted to get more professional shots done.  I was so busy the first week that I put off researching photographers until day 7 and at that point I knew that I needed to find someone local fast.  So I searched Google for newborn photographers in my area and found one that was nearby and most importantly I liked her portfolio and photography style.  I emailed frantically and asked about appointments and I totally lucked out because the website advised to make an appointment during your third trimester!  Melanie from Lavender & Sage responded quickly and gave me an appointment the following week on day 11.

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Why an Instagram account for my baby was one of the best decisions I made

My Experience

My husband is an IT consultant and skeptical about everything that he or I put on social media for the whole world to see.  Ironic yes then that I have this website!  Well when it comes to social media Facebook and Instagram are two applications that we keep private.

As we were sending loads of photos via group text to my family and other ones to friends I jokingly suggested the first week we had our baby that we should give her an Instagram account I thought he would continue his privacy concern rant.  Well he didn’t instead it went more like – wait a minute that could be perfect.

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my top buys & baby hacks

 My Experience

Life with a baby is obviously different but what I really find that affects me the most is having less time – not because of the baby but because of all the stuff during the day you have to do for the baby!  I spend hours more a day cleaning up the house, kitchen, her room, the bathroom, bottles, pumping gear etc and it all adds up to less time I get to spend with her.  This coupled with the fact that when you do spend that quality time with your baby you want her to be happy, smiling and having fun and you want to be your best as well not frustrated and tired.

So here is my list of things I have discovered (buys)  or made up on my own (hacks) to make my life a little easier and hopefully eliminate some of the adult tantrums or frustrations that can come out when you’re sleep deprived, stressed and things don’t seem to be going your way.

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decorating my nursery, how I used Etsy

My Experience

Picking a theme or color scheme is hard whether you know the gender or not.  Will I get tired of this?  Will it stimulate my baby?  Will it be too stimulating?  Will it be relaxing for me if I have to spend so much time in this room?

At first I thought I wanted primary colors, everything bright and stimulating but that was actually harder to find and make look good then I thought it would be so I reconsidered thinking it wouldn’t be relaxing for me.  We chose not to find out the gender so I came across this color scheme in an interior design magazine and loved it – lemon, mint green, grey and white.  The metallic gold happened to look great as well and already came as part of the dresser, lamp, artwork & mobile.

I am really pleased with how it turned out.  It didn’t cost a fortune and I feel comfortable and proud when I walk into the room.

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my baby name formula, choosing a name with reason not rhyme

My Experience

I’ve always been that girl who has had a list of baby names since I was a teenager.  I used to write names I would hear in the back of my address book.  When I got my first iPhone I transferred my  list and have been adding and subtracting names ever since.

When I first found out I was pregnant I was so sick that I didn’t even think about names seriously until the last trimester.  My husband didn’t want to tell family and friends what we were thinking about because everyone has an opinion and sometimes ruins a name you really like when your friends and family may get over their opinion.  I sort of followed this only discussing names with my parents and my good friend.

Girls names were the easiest for us it was boys names that we struggled to agree with.  I would randomly ask what about this name or that to my husband and he would usually not like them but never offer anything he actually liked.  It was quite frustrating to say the least especially when he kept telling me not to discuss it until the baby was born and we saw what he or she looked like.  But that’s not me – I need a list to try on first, a starting point instead of just reading names online or in a book for hours.

My requirements for a first and middle name were something classic yet unusual with something meaningful – and of course it would have to sound good with our last name.

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